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November 2009 
Melting Hugs
Posted on Jun 20th, 2008
by 
Carla
Carla
After my rant yesterday, I need a hug.
Not a butt in the air, no touching below the waste hug.
Not a one armed we used to be lovers, but I'm dating someone else now hug.
Not a quickie hug.
Not a bear hug,
Not even a heart to heart hug.
I want a melting hug.
And I am going out to find one today.
Which means I have to dare to give somebody a melting hug today.
Giving a melting hug means I dare to be uncomfortable until I melt.
More, it means I dare to be with the other persons discomfort till he or she melts.
We're uncomfortable melting into another person's presence, body, even our lovers
and certainly not other people, definitely not fully clothed in public places.
I am getting out of my comfort zone today.
People, our comfort zone is killing us!
Dare to be uncomfortable for a few seconds.
Give and receive a melting hug.
Sometime, soon.
Today would be good.
Not a butt in the air, no touching below the waste hug.
Not a one armed we used to be lovers, but I'm dating someone else now hug.
Not a quickie hug.
Not a bear hug,
Not even a heart to heart hug.
I want a melting hug.
And I am going out to find one today.
Which means I have to dare to give somebody a melting hug today.
Giving a melting hug means I dare to be uncomfortable until I melt.
More, it means I dare to be with the other persons discomfort till he or she melts.
We're uncomfortable melting into another person's presence, body, even our lovers
and certainly not other people, definitely not fully clothed in public places.
I am getting out of my comfort zone today.
People, our comfort zone is killing us!
Dare to be uncomfortable for a few seconds.
Give and receive a melting hug.
Sometime, soon.
Today would be good.
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sounds like a plan. enjoy your hug. I melted a bit while reading.
Your well on your way, then Maze. Thank you.
Oh Carla, this has made me realize just how chilly my weekday routine has become. I see the need to position myself such that this is even possible. Your proactivity - this is important & I will make it happen- is inspiring.
Now I'd better go check out the rant from yesterday;-)
oh you marvelous madame ;-)
I just read your divine diva's rant & opening my arms wide to slide into a
{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{ melting hug with you }}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
Mine too, Janet. Feeling it hard yesterday, which why I am going out today to remedy the situation. I wanted to give the power company man a hug, but I didn't dare. Hah!
Tara: arms open wide! Janet you too. Maze! one at a time, take your time!
I'm outta here, check back tonight!
Invisible hugs are floating in the blog sphere as we melt together.
Bravo to you Carla..
It''s so much nicer way up on the tight rope
OMG i'm melting
Hugs Naked
Whoohoo, FastDart, naked hugs :) Ok, Carla, I'll take the hug challenge, and see how many I can give and receive, one would be nice, 10 would be orgasmic. Anyone else want to join me on the melting hug quest?
Oh yes, dear Carla, today is a good day for a melting hug. I am lucky to have had several of them, the first with my beloved husband and the second with an elder here who gave me the news that she is moving to NJ. So we hugged and we cried. She and I have become friends. And you know another friend in my life just moved away. Thankfully, not too far away!
And today I had to perform an act of mercy on a squirel someone hit with their car and kept going. I helplessly watched the whole thing happen. The little creautre was writhing in spastic agony with its entire body and I did what I knew needed to be done, I ran it over becaue I could see it was too far gone, but not out of its suffering. It felt horrible, but I knew I did the right thing. I still feel sick inside about that. I sent its little body and soul Reike energy for the rest of my commute to work.
Mary, I want to give you and Carla…over the edge, heart to heart, melting hugs.
Yes, my comfort zone has become too restrictive, so I'd love to just step out of it in courage and allow my heart to love openly from that internal place of overflowing joy….please…all of you…consider yourselves hugged and loved meltingly from my heart to yours.
Oh, all you dears, I feel so {{{{{{{hugged}}}}}}}. I need it ! and Laughing out Loud. Almost as good as a big hug.
Mary, so sad to have to euthanize the poor squirrel. I hate hitting very dead road kill, and I really hate it when they choose to run under my wheels when they see me coming.
Huggs to you.
Now back to hugs. This morning I stopped for coffee at my favorite place in town. I knew I'd find someone to hug at Zoot's and I did. Margaret. I asked if she would allow me to do something. and I hugged her. And I held it till we both relaxed. But we didn't really melt.
I think it is like you said, Helen, my heart must be open in overflowing joy. I was myself still self conscious. I think I went up to my edge, but did not cross over. this just means more practice. And I gotta say, that hug felt really good and sent me on my way feeling wonderful.
Later I had the chance to give another hug. Even though this person is a man I have been rather touchy feely with, the hug I insisted on him standing still for was not getting through.
Oh how solid are our invisible boundaries to being loved.
I'm gonna do it again. Tomorrow is another day. I'll catch up with members of my dance tribe. I'm gonna stand still for their hugs.
I think the secret may be to allow those forbidden, uncomfy sexual feelings to well up if they do, and then move beyond them. Dare to be the whole person hugging, but not stopping at one place, or freaking cause of what arises (perhaps sometimes literally).
Tell me, how were your hugs today? Anybody get or give a good one?
hugaliciously ,
DC
You are a brave explorer of the edges of hugs! Much braver than I've ever been. Thanks for going there, and I very much hope you find wonderful things in your hugs. And thank you for sending me to read your Rant, too. Your Rant was excellent! And hugs are probably the creative side. Maybe the rants expell and the hugs make spells… Bless you!
Oh thank you for the feeling of that incredible warm melting hug! Everything in my insides just melted, imagining it. Love the way you saw that you wanted the hug….and then immediately went to the place where you needed to give the hug. If we but give what we desire, it so often comes back to us….
I have far to go into the hug frontier, but once begun I cannot turn back. It helps to know others are hugging somewhere.
Mary, because of you, a squirrel lives, but I now have rhubarb pie all over the back seat of my car. Next time, the squirrel dies…
Today, I may not see another human in the flesh, I have to go out and hug a tree. Fortunately there are many trees needing hugs here.
Martha, I'll hug you in Phoenix in the fall. Details coming soon.
Centria, lovely to have you here. Thank you.
Carla,
I am going to be more conscious of the quality of my hugs, thanks to your sharing here.
Deb
Well!, Carla, Spritelet's blog sent me here and I'm so GLAD! I'm an uncomfortable-but-trying-to-be-comfortable-with-hugs hugger, and I admire your gumption to become the hugger of melting hugs!
I'll watch for an opportunity to give a melting hug today … whew … I'm nervous already! :)
Now to go read the rant everyone's talking about …
Judi